The Honorable Abbott

English is an interesting language, a word can be both a noun and a verb, often a way to describe someone.

My friend, a sister of my heart, Robin Abbot has had both the title and a life where the word Honorable applies. Robin was elected to be a member of the Virginia House of Delegates — as such the title Honorable. My friend is an attorney, a sister, aunt, mother, grandmother & devoted friend.

To love and live with the no matter what attitude is path to happiness, to honor life no matter the sorrow or struggles that everyone experiences sometime in life will lead one to a place of no regrets.

When Robin’s beloved husband died, my husband already ill and dealing with cancer she made the decision to stand at the ready should I need her. Living in different States it meant travel, Robin told me to just say the word, her bags were packed. Again demonstrating her way to honor me as her friend with support and understanding.

We have a relationship which can be sassy, fun, committed to causes we know are important. There are great discussions on serious topics, there is laughter and teasing as well. In everything we make sure to honor the existence of each other and of our friendship.

Faults and failures should never, must never define a person nor should success but instead the answer to the question, has one lead an honorable life and without hesitationI can state that the Honorable Robin Abbott has and always will.

*Photo: My friend, sister of my heart Robin Abbott with President Joseph Biden

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The Chin Hair

You know how it goes. For me hair freshly blowed dried, makeup perfect, nails shiny and bright, outfit outstanding and then … Then take a moment to check all in place en route to a meeting, appointment or event and what should appear in the mirror is one single very noticeable hair on my chin.

I am lucky as the person who shapes my brows monthly reminds me that I have never had much of an issue with the dreaded by women facial hair. Still being aware of how important tidiness is I carry a small tweezer in my always present small personal hygiene bag, being sure to switch to whatever pocketbook or briefcase carrying that day or evening. Alas there is not always the opportunity to pull that hair only noticed once on the way to my destination – what is one to do or in the case of a man who notices he missed a spot while shaving. What one does is this – shoulders back, head up and forward with pride and determination.

You might be asking why this is even worth writing about … Oh my you see in that question is the answer or perhaps more importantly the truth of our lives from the time of the ancients until and including present days. Each of us at times is made to feel apprehensive based on the ill conceived notion of what matters and what others see as important. This is not a suggestion to ignore anything small or large, certainly I do not but what I am attempting to explain here is that should there be a time when the occasion arises where a less than perfect you must move toward a goal then do it – do it with the confidence of royalty for you are indeed the ruler of your kingdom when you understand no one’s opinion matters as much as your own strength!

Note: This is Part I of a two part essay “The Chin Hair”